Ate, 14 years na talaga at paulit-ulit pa rin ang cycle, nakakasawa talaga at valid ang feelings mo, hindi ka overreacting. A few of us moms talked about this too, at napansin namin na pag ganyan ang pattern, kailangan mo talaga ng honest conversation hindi lang pag-clarify, kundi about the bigger picture ng relationship niyo at kung ready kayo mag-settle down. Mahal niya kayo, pero love isn't enough if he's not willing to change the behavior, hindi lang mag-apologize and expect that everything resets, you deserve accountability at effort from him, especially if may anak na kayo. Before the wedding, siguro mas better talaga mag-couples counseling o mag-sit down with someone neutral, because if this keeps repeating after kasal, it's gonna drain you more. You're not asking too much by wanting him to listen, update you, and follow through, that's basic partnership lang, hindi demanding. Trust your gut on this one.