❓️How to Deal with: "Mama, bakit bawal ako? Pero sila pwede?" 😭

Sa akin, simply "because that's wrong." I've always tried to talk to my child like an adult in a way that I don't baby talk him or inuuto or whatever. I talk to him para maintindihan nya, hindi lang para i-appease sya. If hindi pwede bilhin, I tell him the truth, "we have limited money, hindi natin pwede bilhin lahat. kailangan pa nating mag-ipon/ magwork more para makabili nyan, etc." ...if it's toys "you already have too many toys at home", "...that food is yummy but not healthy", etc. "Kapag may nakikita tayong mali, hindi natin ginagaya"... Kapag tama ang gawa whether I see on my lo or sa ibang bata, I'm quick to praise. Pero kapag mali, I also point out na mali iyon at hindi dapat gawin/ gayahin. Natural lang na malungkot at magtantrums din si lo ko after explaining, still it's a "no". I always tell him "It's okay to cry if you're sad or frustrated, but that doesn't mean you'll get what you want." When he's bit older I'll teach him "Just because everybody is doing it, it doesn't make it right"

Hello Mommy/Daddy, always remember po "IT'S NOT WHAT YOU SAY, IT'S HOW YOU SAY IT" Kaya dapat maging maingat at klaro ang pag papaliwanag sa anak. Example sa panganay ko (9yrs old na) (preggy ako ngayon) simula ng nabuntis ako, lahat kami nag adjust sa gastos sa food, needs, lalo na ang "wants" inexplain mabuti na "makakapag hintay pa yan, pwede makuha sa ibang pag kakataon. Mas okay bilin ito (needs) kesa jan sa... (wants)" tapos pag uwi sa bahay pakita mo pag kakaiba, "Oh diba kung binili mo yun sandali lang sira na o kasasawaan mo na, ito matagal magagamit o magagamit mo kahit saan" Mahirap oo, at hindi palaging nag wowork out yung ganon kasi talagang minsan mag tatampo o lalong nadadagdagan ang bakit? eh? sige na? please?... Ang key is 2 kayo mag asawa mag explain ng mahinahon. 😊

I barely say No to my daughter every time na nasa grocery store kami but she can only have one. So pag nasa candy isle kmi she'll grab one, then pag nasa ibang isle nman and she wanted something from there, she needs to decide which one she wanted more. Isa lang talaga. If nasa toy store nman at masyadong pricey "she'll say "Mom can I have this for Christmas or for her birthday". Ganun ang setup til now ,and there was never a time na umiyak sya just because she cant have it. She understands. ❤️

No, but for real, though, I would say it really depends on your style, your husband style, what you both believe and agree on, and what you would like to do better than what your parents did. Also, of course use what worked from your parents. At the end of the day, what to tell the kid?as long as it doesn’t tear down the other parent, the other kids, and points your kid to Jesus. And of course, to obeying you and trusting you more ha ha ha ha ha (which is essentially training for trusting in God)

Not a parent pero as an early childhood teacher na always nakaka-encounter ng katulad sa example above, what works for me, usually ine-explain ko lang yung realistic pros and cons sa way na mas maiintindihan nila. After explanation or practice, usually yung iba naiintindihan naman pero may mga kids na ‘di gets and gusto sila pa din masunod, tantrums malala. Lol. Pero somehow it gets better naman over time ng pagpa practice.

I experience that pag may namimigay ng hard candies sa kids (bawal kasi anak ko specifically sa hard candy). So naawa ako when she sees other kids get candies and she doesnt hahaha anyway what we do is we tell her why bawal sya, we tell her the risks na masisira ngipin niya it will be ouchie, and we give her an alternative at least. Happy nmn sya sa ice cream alternative nainggit pa mga kasama nya haha

Nasa bahay pa lang sinasabi ko na, "ito lang bibilhin natin wala tayong pera pero kakain naman tayong jollibee or kfc" masaya na sila nun. Basta kailangan kakain. Saka d kami pupunta ng mall kung wala naman pera

Wag sanayin na nakukuha lagi ang gusto ,tsaka before kme umalis sinasabi k na kung pwede ba bumili or nd ..so far ok nman ..may 2 years old son undestand it ..kahit c ate nya ganun din.

nsa bata yan paanu umintindi at paanu ipaintindi mg magulang sa awa ng Dios kaht malayo ako pero naiintidihan nmn ang mga sinasabi ko..

simple lang po sinabi ko sa anak ko "don't do that because that's wrong. and sasabihin naman ng anak ko ok mommy