My parents-in-law have been bugging me to have a 2nd child. I have told them I would like to wait for a little while long. How should I get them off my shoulders?
Grandparents or inlaws are always excited to have a lil one running around the house. The key is to explain to them as politely as possible so that they don't get offended by it. Explain to them that you and your husband would be more comfortable if you waited for some time to have the 2nd one.
I suggest, if you are not able to put across that you do not like to discuss the matter with them or tell them that you don't want the second child right now, tell your husband to communicate it to them. I think, he will be able to make them understand better.
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Give a reasonable explanation to your parents in law about you and your husband have a deal to wait for having 2nd child. Also tell them, you want the best for your children so you need everything to be well planed.
You could try letting your husband deal with them. It is easier to explain to your own parents such decisions. I don't think this will put him in a difficult spot and he will probably know better how to handle them.
You can't control their words and actions. Just be firm and kind when telling them that it's your body and your decision. Don't be pressured in any way. I'm sure they mean well but I get how that can be annoying.
I agree with Hui Qun. When it comes to in-laws, I always think that it's easier for the spouse to speak to them instead because he's already used to their ways and would know how to get through them better.
Last time when my pil asked me about this question, I just smiled and told them: baby will come when it's the time for him/her to come. After that they never mentioned about this anymore.
My body my rules, I told them what I feel about this. I am not fit to have more than one kid. I’m not ready emotionally, physically and financially.
Your husband should be able to fend off their questions. No one's forced to accede to their requests.