Honestly, filial piety was never meant to be a blank cheque, it means respect and care, not accepting financial pressure or emotional drain without boundaries. What your husband is doing already counts as filial: regular visits, allowance, insurance, medical support, that is genuinely more than many families manage. Someone in my mum group brought up a similar situation and the key thing they worked through was getting the husband to agree on a fixed monthly amount upfront, so every visit doesn't become a negotiation, it takes the money topic off the table because it's already settled. The harder part is your husband's people-pleasing pattern, and that's worth a quiet conversation between the two of you, not a confrontation with the in-laws, framing it as "protecting your family's mental health long-term" rather than "cutting them off" tends to land better with chill, conflict-avoidant husbands. Some couples reduce visit frequency gradually without making it a big announcement, which lowers the emotional toll without triggering drama; others keep the schedule but mentally reframe the visits as a fixed commitment with a clear end time. You're not being a bad daughter-in-law, you're trying to protect your marriage and your own wellbeing, and those things matter too.