Aku totally faham lah, jarak 11 bulan between siblings memang challenging secara mental dan physically, apatah lagi kalau you're not ready lagi emotionally. Tapi kena think jugak, kalau you turun darah, recovery ko boleh take longer, and it's a procedure with risks kat body korang, so better check dengan doktor dulu untuk understand semua options dan implications ye. Honestly, kena have proper conversation jugak dengan partner about what "not ready" means, is it financial, emotional, health concerns?, sebab sometimes talking it through helps clarify if this is cold feet or genuine risk. Whatever you decide, make sure it's a decision you can be at peace with later, jangan buat under pressure. Hang in there, mama, this is heavy, but you're not alone.