Sis, your feelings are 100% valid, you just gave birth three months ago and your hormones are all over the place, so it makes total sense na triggered ka ulit, lalo na may spotting pa rin ka at hindi ka ready physically. A few of us mums have had similar situations, and honestly? The secrecy and denials hurt more than anything else kasi parang nag-iwan sya ng feelings mo sa sideline. I think the real issue here isn't whether it's "normal" for guys (it might be, pero that doesn't make it okay to dismiss your feelings), but more na kailangan nyo ng actual honest conversation, maybe with a couples counselor kasi wala ka na energy for the back-and-forth, and he needs to understand why you feel less-than, especially postpartum. Don't expect instant change, pero you can expect him to stop invalidating you with denials, dahil that's what's really breaking your trust dito. Take care ng mental health mo muna, ate, you deserve someone who makes you feel secure, hindi insecure.