Aww mama, yan talaga ang hardest part ng tandem nursing, ang emotional manipulation is real, and honestly you're not alone, a few of us went through this din with our older kids! What worked for my friend is she made weaning gradual and set specific times lang (like you're doing with nap and bedtime), pero she also replaced the comfort part with extra cuddles, stories, or special "big girl" time na walang baby involved, kasi sometimes it's not really about the milk, it's about feeling close to you pa. The crying will happen and yes, ikaw ay maiiyak din (totally valid!), pero consistency is key, so kahit mahirap, try not to give in on days you said no, kasi it confuses them more, maybe involve her in something fun or distract her agad bago mag-bedtime routine kaya less chance sya mag-ask. Kaya mo yan mama, it gets easier after a few weeks once she realizes ang pattern!