How to deal with Tantrums

Ay alam ko yan, sobrang challenging talaga pang 5 years old! One of my mum friends swears by staying calm pa lang rin kahit galit na galit na siya, kasi kapag nakita ng bata na composed ka pa rin, mas mabilis siyang kumalma versus mag-escalate pa ng situation. A few of us din tried giving choices instead ng direct commands, like "gusto mo magsuot ng red shirt o blue shirt?" instead of "magsuot ka na!", parang feeling nila may control, so mas konti ang tantrums, honestly it works most of the time with our kids na ganyang edad na.