Depression

Question

Hello. Im a silent reader po. I just want to ask for suggestions on how can I handle the family of my partner na nagsabi ng masasakit na salita when they learned na Im preggo with our 2nd baby. Btw my EDD is on March 2020, that time, my eldest would be 2yrs old na po.I am 30 yrs old, my partner is 27. Were not married but were living on their house. I am 8weeks pregnant but in threatened abortion due to subchorionic hemorrhage so I need complete bedrest.I told his mom na I need to have complete bedrest ksi complicated so I wont be able to look after my eldest for the meantime. His mom told me, naku wag kamuna magbuntis, maliit pa panganay mo, nako mahirap yan, inuman mo ng pills yan. I answered her, ano gusto nyo gawin ko? Andito napo ung bata. but she stayed silent.Ive also heard things from his older siblings like:1. Its not that we dont like the baby, but the situation.-- Same banana po yun dba. The situation is the baby, hinde hiwalay ung situation sa baby. Sitwasyon ko inaalagaan dito kasi hindi healthy na nasa gantong environment ako na ang NEGA ng mga tao. Yung stress ko nakaka apekto sa bata esp. now nasa developing stage pa lang.2. Ankitid ng utak kase.-- His ate told this to me. From my own family, what did they say when they learned about the baby?Malaki kana, alam mo na yan. Basta pag kailangan mo ng tulong, andito lang kami. Kailan kba manga2nak?3. Nurse sya dapat nagpills sya-- 2011 pa ako huling nagpractice. Senior Transaction Analyst na po ako today sa company na pinapasukan ko. I think walang connect kung ano propesyon ko noon kaya ako buntis ulit ngaun. Please help. ? Please I badly need it.

Anne · Answer

Hi, mommy. Does your partner know about his familys treatment on you? If yes, what did he say about it? If no, do you have plans on telling him? He deserves to know mommy para mapagusapan nyong mabuti. Di healthy sayo na sarilinin mo lahat.What are your other options? Pwede bang tumira muna kayo sa family mo? For the reasons din naman na binanggit mo. Its very sad to hear suggestions na inuman nalang ng pills yan. If you have the option to get out of that toxic environment, please do. Both for you and your babys sake.Is it possible to hire a nanny na titingin sa eldest nyo since you need to have a complete bed rest.It takes two to tango. All the blaming episodes that you heard from your partners family wont help. You two need to sincerely talk about this.