Im currently almost 23 weeks pregnant and first time mother. My husband just received NS reservist notice for the first time to ask him go back for reservist for 2 weeks plus in early Jan-Feb 2026. My EDD is around early oct 2025.. by the time the baby born will be 3 months old.. we hired 28 days confinement nanny and yet to decide for a helper after the nanny is gone. Is it selfish to ask him to defer his reservist? Will it be valid to defer? #Needadvice #firsttimemom