Alamak, you've said it best lah! Seriously, a few of us in my mum group went through exactly this, one friend nearly had a breakdown trying to exclusively bf while recovering from a C-section, no help at home, and the guilt was eating her alive sampai she couldn't even eat properly. The moment she relaxed about topping up with FM, she felt like a human again and honestly, baby thrived better because mama was less stressed. You're so right that stress during pantang slows recovery down, and what good is that for anyone? A happy, rested mum who can actually enjoy her baby and take care of the household is way better than a stressed, sleep-deprived one struggling through the motions. Terima kasih for writing this, mummies who are struggling need to hear that they're doing enough, seriously.