Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's wonderful that this is such a deliberate choice for you both, and honestly, many women have healthy pregnancies in their 40s so try not to stress too much about the age thing.
For your first appointment, most OBGYNs like to see you around 8 to 12 weeks when they can confirm dates and do your initial screening, though some practices ask you to come in earlier if you prefer. Since it's been 14 years, the process will feel a bit different now - they'll likely do your booking blood tests, dating scan, and go through your medical history, so just call your OB's clinic to book and they'll guide you through what they need. The kids will probably come around once baby arrives, especially since it's a sibling situation rather than a completely new dynamic for them. All the best with your pregnancy!
Anonymous