Need to seek marriage counsellor

I have been married for 3 years to my husband and just had a child 5 m.o of age. We have been having more tensions ever since my baby was born. Mainly because I felt he listens more to his family instead of me as his wife. And because he is an introvert and does not speak up, whenever some bad remarks come from his family, he also just kept quiet and pretend nothing happened. I felt that my feelings are neglected nor I can open up with him because all our discussions will usually end up in a fight. I feel very overwhelmed and under pressure living together. Weekly visit to in law's place is always a dreadful thing for me to face. I started to blame myself for many things, for marrying him, for having a child, I feel really bad and selfish as a mother :(

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Thank you so much for your reply 🙏 . My baby is turning 7 m.o soon which means 2 months have passed since I posted this feed. Sadly, I am still struggling with fights day after day with my husband. We have been going for couple counselling but things seem to be dire. I am deeply disappointed with my husband and I never feel appreciated for what I have done for my baby (I have been unemployed and taking a role as a FTM btw). I am a failure as a mother, wife, daughter-in-law and a daughter :(

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Hello there, I hope everything has become better for you. 💕 It is true that sometimes our husband may not be able to understand what we are thinking for our baby and going through as a mother. Also, our in laws have their own set of ways to bring up kids. And they will always say “last time you all also are brought up this way”. But often we don’t agree and it is ok to feel this way, because that is our baby, generation are different already and we have our own ways of how we want them to be brought up. Our own parents we can handle ourselves but anything that involve your in-laws would be better for your husband to communicate with them. Maybe you can talk to your friends who are also mummies, they will understand what you are going through more. Being a FTM is not easy, Xin ku ni le and Jia you Jia you! We are still learning about our baby and motherhood. And one thing for sure, you’re doing your best each day to be a good mother for your baby. Jia you!!

Hi there, just wanted to drop in to say that you are not alone in your struggle. It is important for you and your husband to establish mutual expectation on how you want to raise your child and to politely inform your in laws that “this is how we do it”. Most times, they impose or guide to do things a certain way because that’s the way they know and think that you need help.

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