My cat doesn’t sleep with us anymore but he always comes to us whenever my husb and I are together, relaxing and chatting. The first night we brought baby home and sleep in our room, our cat meowed outside our room too. He doesn’t want to sleep with us but he wants to be with us. That’s his way of showing affection. I’ve been watching him since we brought baby home and can tell that he gets lonely at times. It’s heartbreaking especially when for a long time, it was just us three before baby arrives. What I do is really make time for him when baby sleeps. Gives him lots of neck rubs, keep cooing and sending him messages of love, give him snacks. And when I care for baby, my husb will continue to play with cat so at least one of us are actively showing him love the same way as before. My cat is slowly coming out of that “loneliness” bubble and started to look more relaxed and at home again.
While I am also worried about fur being bad for baby, I am not particular about cat being near baby. I want them to bond but at cat’s own time :)