Just want to rant about my first time breastfeeding journey

My husband and his MIL are not supportive of my breastfeeding journey. I am a FTM, and I just gave birth 1 week ago. I know all of this takes time to master the skill, and this is supply and demand one. But every time I told my husband, to open the book page for him to read about breastfeeding and latching position, he was somehow not interested to know this topic. Always got excused. Now, the MIL. His mother didn’t bfeed him. She is a very pro with formula milk. Every time she comes to our home, when I try to latch my baby, she likes to ask how? Got milk or not? How... does the baby want to drink? Then if she sees that the baby stops sucking or looks tired, she will comment “just give formula milk la”. I know she is really into formula milk. She won’t ask me to latch him when she is in our house and see the baby cries. I told her that all this takes time for my milk to have a bigger supply. I must breastfeed (supply and demand). If not he will have the habit with milk bottle, and I can’t produce milk. And this is for baby antibodies. But well what can I do when the senior mindset is already unsupportive from the start. Very hard to be convinced. Feeling sad and uncomfortable...

Vô danh

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I give birth last week as well..I am still learning about breastfeeding and tried latching but it's really hard.. tried for the first 3 days but realised that as the latch is not good plus for me I have no milk at all, but they say need to let the baby latch so that it will send the signal to the brain to generate milk. but everytime it delayed the baby drinking time, we will end up giving her formula milk first in case she is too hungry. as all the crying and hunger will lead to gas build up in the stomach. after that I tried to YouTube to see how to massage my breast so that I can have more milk. I followed one video and surprisingly milk finally came out. I use breast pump thereafter so that I can collect some milk and at least let the baby drink. now gradually increase from 20ml to 40ml. so what I do now is I jus pump my breast, and when there is not enough I will feed formula milk. as right now my stitches from normal delivery is still painful, I plan to let the baby try latching again when I recovered.

Vô danh

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Yes, that's what I did too. Partially breastfeeding. I know bb can't be dehydrated. Just that when she is at our home and know the baby shows hungry symptom, she will just go to kitchen for formula milk without asking if I wanna latch or store my milk. I really can sense that she is just into a formula milk bc she didn't breasfeed. When I try to latch, and if happen baby very fussy to drink, she will make a comment that make me uncomfortable. I need to feed him slowly ma and also still learning. Sometimes easy to breastfeed but other days difficult, must be very patient. If baby still sleeping and I tried to wake him up to latch, my MIL will comment let him sleep. Even though I told her can't sleep for so long, need to feed after 3 hours or max 4 hours. Lucky the nanny also said the same. Then she will listen. 😮‍💨 Anyway, jiayou for both of us! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

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