Hi there,
So sorry to hear what you are going through. A child is a blessing and the final piece of puzzle to complete a FAMILY. It seem to me that your Husband is a very busy person but unfortunately, that is not a good reason to be acting like that. Do sit down and have a chat with him. If he thinks that The Maid is lazy, ask his opinion to recommend a better maid. Ask him to contribute ideas to how you can sleeptrain your child. Sometimes the tone of our voice(Husband/Wife) makes a lot of difference in a conversation.
Sleep training a LO is not easy. Shanayah was the same too... she would wake up as soon as you put her down. What I did was to lay with her while telling her stories in bed. You can also try other methods from Supernanny(UK) on YouTube. Her methods are really good.
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