Mental breakdown

Question

How to handle toddler 4y , 2y and baby 1 year while me have to go through my pregancy journey ??? Kadang mental broke sebab yg 2y tu tantrum kuat , 4y n 1 y also nk attention . I have to control my emotion . Bcs tknk sepanjang pregnancy kalini taknak ada masalah pelik pelik like preeclampsia because i ada history masa anak sulung . I taknak stress stress nak tenang tenang tapi tulah , kena melayan kerenah anak anak , sepahkan rumah taknak kemas balik . taknak dengar kata nak kita terpekik pekik cakap 3/4 kali nak baru nak buat , dengan berebutnya satu hal bergaduh nya satu hal . Macam mana mental nak kuat . 🥺🥺🥺🥺😢😢😖 saya baru first trimester . Jauh lagi perjalanan . Tolong bagi kata kata semangat sikit . 🥺🥺🥺😩

Nurrul Hani · Answer

Hai mama, aku totally faham lah, youre managing three little ones sambil pregnant lagi, dan dengan history preeclampsia tu memang ada pressure lebih. First thing: please reach out to your doctor or midwife about how youre feeling emotionally, they can support you properly, especially dengan health anxiety yang ada sekarang.Honestly, few of my mum friends yang dalam situation sama cakap the guilt of I should be calm for baby tu paling berat, tapi pregancy hormones + toddler chaos = normal breakdown lah mama, bukan failure. One of them actually set very strict boundaries: some toys jadi off-limits during her pregnant months, tantrum times she just sat down dan breathe, tak layan drama (sounds cold tapi kids actually adapted). A few of us also realized messy house > stressed mama, so we literally let it go, or asked partner/family/maid untuk ambil that load off.Youre only in first trimester, long journey ahead yes, but break it into manageable chunks, not nine months sekaligus. Your emotional health is part of preventing preeclampsia lah, so self-protection bukan selfish.You got this. Reach out to your support circle, mama friends, family, doctor, jangan tahan sorang-sorang.