Congrats on your second one! The helper-nanny dynamic is honestly something worth sorting out early, I'd suggest having a clear conversation with both of them before day one, spelling out who handles what so there's no stepping on toes. The main thing to watch is that some nannies (especially older, more traditional ones) can be quite set in their ways, they may insist on stricter confinement rules or want to limit who handles the baby, which could clash with a long-time helper who already has her own established ways. A friend of mine went through something similar and said the key was being the one to set the boundaries firmly, rather than leaving the two of them to figure it out themselves. On the freelance side, do be a bit careful, there have been cases of nannies who don't quite deliver what they promised, so if possible go through an agency where there's some accountability. Overall the arrangement can work really well if roles are clear from the start, but it does take a bit of upfront managing on your part.
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