Setting boundaries for hospital visitors

Hi, ftm here. I’m due end june and most likely going to be doing a c-sec. Everyone has been super excited for the baby to come and talking about visiting at the hosp. Am i the asshole for not wanting any visitors, especially on the 1st day of birth because I want to be able to rest properly? Not sure how to bring it up to my in laws and parents that I don’t want them to visit at the hosp on the day baby arrives without offending them. They’ve all been talking about it like it’s a given thing. I get that they’re excited but I’m really worried I’ll be super overwhelmed if they’re all around fussing right after the surgery and I won’t be able to rest properly if there are visitors around even if it’s my own parents. My in laws and parents are both very traditional so it’s like a natural given to them that they will be at the hospital immediately after I give birth, but I’m really dreading it and I’m not sure what to do.

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make it known so that prospective visitors are aware. with section, the nurses will be coming in and out every hour to check BP, check drips, check wound, bring baby in, food, meds.. gyne coming to check.. already you won't be able to sleep well, you really don't need to entertain if you do not wish to. you have all the rights! let them know of alternatives, such as video call or visit after you feel comfortable. you be you mama!

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