dont get along with my fiancés younger brother - just need someone to rant to 💀

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My fiancés younger brother is 20 y/o hes very much a spoiled brat, rude and lazy asf. His mother and my fiancé expect me to baby his brother when i told my fiancé his brother is 20 y/o and is well-abled. Why I said hes spoiled brat, rude and lazy? heres one of a few key things (theres more lol): -1) Doesnt work part time to contribute to the family, excuse: because im still studying. this is just a useless excuse, my fiancé started working when he was 14 y/o whilst still studying (full-time)2) I hide my snack/instant noodles in the room because hes been taking my stuff without asking for permission or letting me know. BUTTTT, he still went ahead to the room and took my instant noodles 😇🙂, when called out, hes pathetic reason i have nothing to eat obviously i take la in rude arrogant manner and unapologetic (obviously never even apologise for it). I told him this instant noodle was not sold in SG yet as it just recently released (obviously 1 packet of instant noodles cost close to $5 lol theres a surge in price because it just got released 😞) and he was also so rude and arrogant saying that im staying at HIS MUMS HOUSE and all my stuff is their property 😮‍💨 and nope his mother did not ask her son to apologise (hes her fav child 🫨) 3) He always cook, use the plates, etc and never wash up and my fiancé expect me to wash up his dishes as well 🥱 I told him no he is well-abled to wash up on his own (imagine i havent even married into his family and hes already expecting me to baby his 20 Y/O BROTHER) — im currently 26 wks pregnant, taking care of my son, full-time working and also part-time studying for my diploma 🤐 4) He is soo lazy that he cant even buy his own food right below the block theres a kopitiam 👺 hes mom asked me to collect food for her son (my fiancé younger brother) ☠️I already told my fiancé firmly that I will not take care of his younger brother 😵‍💫 I told him im the only child and I did not even do housework back in my home yet youre expecting me to take care of your younger brother?! I have absolutely no complaints in doing housework as I know I need to contribute to the household but I told my fiancé that I WILL ONLY CONTRIBUTE FOR MY PART (my son, fiancé and me). Nothing else. I just hope I could quickly move-out of this house as I know there will be more issues arising after this happened.

Vô danh · Answer

Just my POV. 1) For this, personally I feel cannot compare. Some people are more independent and started working early while some only start late. I’m not siding his brother, just that I have 6 siblings so I understand this point. There’s a saying “人比人气死人“. But no doubt, reading on he is indeed a waste of space brat la. 2) I would do it back to him, if his mother has any complaints, ask her to buy for her son again lor. Her son, her responsibity. You already helped her take over her older son’s responsibility alr still expect buy 1 free 1. Technically your husband and you are considered another family, but if he say because you’re staying at their house, everything is their property, then it should be vice versa. Your husband’s family stuffs is also your stuffs 😇. 3) My husband’s older bro does this as well, wash a few times ok close eye. Imagine one coffee cup leave there for 5-6 days then accumulating so many ants, I’m not gonna touch that wtf. Subsequently I just leave it there, his mother can help wash if she finds it eyesore, ITS THEIR HOUSE WHAT. For this I would have told my husband off if he asked me to wash and he can be prepared to wash his(husband) own dishes from then on. 4) Come up with 101 excuses to not collect the food, even food delivery also got comms. Nothing is free, including my service. Respect works both ways, so if no one is respecting my privacy and efforts, then I won’t continue.

don't get along with my fiancé's younger brother - just need someone to rant to 💀