Comments from Husband's family

Anyone encountered such situation? Am I too petty or emotional? Currently at 3rd week PP - natural birth. Went through close to 20 hrs of labor & had 2nd degree tear. Recovery took quite a while and husband's family often will see that my husband is taking care of the baby during the day since I'm in confinement and in pain - they will make unnecessary comments like "the dad is better at taking care of the baby" "the baby is mostly taken care of by the dad - he is good at handling". This really irks me and pissed me off. I still diligently Pumped every 2 hrs so baby can have breastmilk as she doesn't want to latch much, and then every night I will carry her whenever she cries. In the day I will help out also with my husband for baby's shower and feeds. My husband is really wonderful I admit, in terms of helping out and stuffs, but I really hates it when these unnecessary comments were made and I will cry, thinking that I am actually not doing a good job and as if the mother doesn't play a part at all?

Vô danh

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We are first time mum trying to give out best to our baby, i also heard unnecessary comments i also get so affected n cry... you are doing so well alrdy with pumping every 2 hours! I have 3rd degree tear i cannot pump as diligent as you, i felt guilty, i tried to pump every few hours, but milk still very low. Been latching when i can and topup FM 😢 Baby now almost 2months, ultrasound recently shows still have problem down there, waiting for subsidised doctor for review, duno need wait how long, dam pain :(

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Home Birthclub: October 2023 anyone encountered such situation i too petty emotional currently 3rd week