PROPER communication po is the key. Hindi sapat na "nagu-usap" kayo kung hindi naman kayo nagkakarinigan. Hindi "naririnig" not just because one is being too soft or loud, rather it's because your message is not coming across properly, maaaring dahil sa tono ng pag-uusap nyo, or yung mga wordings nyo ay nakakasakit, etc. Sa post nyo, nabanggit nyo mga kailangan nyo at pagkukulang ni hubby. Pero how about si hubby? nalaman nyo ba bakit sya nagkaganun? Wala ba kayo naging pagkukulang sa kanya? Oo at may uncontrolled hormones tayo due to pregnancy, etc. but it doesn't give us the right to treat others poorly. Have you ever said sorry to him?
Kung kapag nagu-usap kayo ay laging nauuwi lang sa away, may I suggest to put your thoughts into writing instead. Pwede sulat, pwede email saka mo isend sa kanya. In this way, mas mako-compose mo ang thoughts mo at mai-edit mo po to remove yung mg unnecessary hurtful words that you don't really mean, etc. Personally, this works for me, maybe because I'm an introvert pero sana makatulong sa inyo.
Medyo cheesy ito pero I honestly believe it helps in knowing my feelings and expressing it properly. In creating your love letter, use this format:
I'm angry ___...
I'm sad ___...
I fear ___...
I regret ___...
I'd love ___...
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