Hey mama, I totally get it, finding the right gynae makes such a difference, especially when you need to feel heard! From what I hear around, Dr Janice Tung comes up a lot in conversations with mums who wanted exactly what you're looking for, she's known for being really empathetic and bilingual, and people say she actually takes time to listen rather than rushing through. A neighbour brought her pregnancy concerns to her and said she felt so much more reassured after, which sounds like what you need this time round. Dr Aswini Balachandran at KKH is also mentioned by some mums as being warm and professional at the same time. Since you know yourself better now, I'd say trust that instinct and maybe call ahead to chat with the clinic staff briefly, sometimes you can get a feel for the doctor's pace before you commit. All the best with your search, and I really hope you find someone who makes you feel supported this time!