Same here.. 10mo so difficult to sleep. Sometimes i get angry and shout then she scared also, sometimes i willingly let her drag my time. Can take up to 3 hours for her to finally sleep especially night time. Now i just mentally prepare myself before putting her to sleep. If lucky, she fall asleep fast. If not, no choice. If really cannot take it, call the husband. My husband usually just use earpods and listen to stuff and just continue to pat her until she give up crying and sleep. I dont do that because im paranoid🤣 can try to walk around the house while patting also or watch tv to distract urself from the stress