Hi guys , i wanna share and ask about yours opinions. So the thing is yesterday my husband invite his friends over to play mahjong together with my MIL. We have a 1.5 years old little cute son , my son is curious about the mahjong so keep going and bothered them playing so my husband insult me to take care of this amazing son alone. At the same time my MIL ask me to cook for her while she was playing mahjong. Another thing is that , our housework also need to be done by me at the same day. Im so tired and exhausted cuz u know baby wont just sit down, he will hang around everywhere and i need to done my housework as well . They finished playing mahjong at night 10pm (since morning 11am) . And when i wanna go to bed, there is still a bunch of clothes that need to be put back to the rack, i asked my husband to help me with a tired face , and he ended up scolding me about my tired face , said that i no need put such face. Said “what r u complaining at? U just take care of our child, nothing to be tired about etc.” We quarrel abit and i beg him to not shout as our baby is sleeping next to us but he dont care , he just wanna make a fuss until my MIL come. Then my husband was trying to tell my MIL that i was very tired to do housework etc which is making me cry. Cause it’s quite embarrassing. And what i upset the most is that i cant do anything .. please advice 😔😔😔 #1stimemom #firstbaby #MotherInLaw #husbandandwife #husbandandwifeforlife #wifeproblem

I am so fed up and wanted to rant. Im a ftwm and I usually reached home at arnd 7pm. My husband is selfemployed. Ive 2 kids (eldest 4yo) and most of the childcare during the time when the kids came home (armd 6pm) to when i reached home is taken by my helper and husband. Today my husband has an appointment at night. When my mil knew of this (at arnd 4.30pm), she suggested that she n my fil came over to my hse to help my helper take care of the kids. Sometimes they do that, so i agreed, especially since my husband niece n nephews r with my pil tdy. After I agreed, my mil informed that she would be buying mcd for the niece n nephew AND my eldest for dinner. I immediately called her and told her not to buy my eldest portion as my helper had already started cooking our dinner. She said ok. However, when I came home, I saw my eldest eating mcd. When I told my eldest to eat the dinner prepared by my helper first (my eldest is ok to eat the dinner prepared at home and readily accepts), my mil told my eldest not to worry and to eat mcd first. When she done eating mcd, she is too full to have the dinner prepared at home (of course!). My mil jist ask us to pour away the home cooked food my helper had scooped for my eldest. Im so upset with this. Firstly, my mil ignored and overwrite my instructions. Secondly, its not like my eldest dont want to eat home cooked food. How can she ask her to eat mcd (not so healthy food) before a proper meal? Thirdly, she disregard that there will be wasted food cooked by us. I understamd that she wants the kids to be happy. I would not mind mcd for dinner if dinner had not been prepared yet. I am also ok if my mil had let my eldest finish home cooked food before eating mcd. But fact is, the dinner had had been cooked and prepared, i even called to inform her and specifically ask her not to let my eldest eat mcd, she agreed only to overwrite my instructions later, and even asked my eldest to eat mcd first and throwing away the home cooked food where so much effort is taken to prepare and wasting it. Im so so so angry and upset. #ranting #MotherInLaw

Mother in law’s reaction to me being pregnant for the second time? 1) telling my hub that i should “tie my tubes” in case i get pregnant again. Reason? She doesnt think i’m a good mum based on her standards (need to be like her, she takeaway 1 packet of food, she give to her child then just chew on plain bread and say she always give the best to her children). Lol. 2) We dont stay together. She told me she want to help with my first born, 6 years old now, on sundays. I bring him over. As the weeks go by, she need to broadcast and mention to my hub that she’s helping us take care of our child. After she know about the pregnancy, she told us “ya to you guys good news, but i dont think its good news to me.” 3) She’s worried that we will “trouble” her financially or physically but me and my hub earn comfortable salary and most times, when i have something urgent, my parents are the ones who help out with my firstborn. 4) I dont feel comfortable enough for her to look after my second one also. Like who smacks a 6 year old for spelling a word wrong or for being “noisy” aka singing songs in the living room? Who says “use your brain, dont be stupid” to a primary 1 kid? 5) Today she messaged my hub saying “Please dont bring the baby back” and “ask her mother to take care.” LOL. Feel unappreciated. CNY i gave her an angbao, her birthday i bring her out to celebrate. Mothers day i even bought gold for her (she just say oh ok i’ll open when i’m free”. I’m not asking her to treat me like royalty but at least dont be so kns right? Just ranting. I know my points are all over the place but yeah. I feel better after yapping about it. Haha. #MotherInLaw