Would you work long hours and weekend to earn more/secure ur job or spend more time with your children but earn lesser? Would that make you a lesser dad?

Well if you look at the Family law... I would say work less and spend more time with your kids. If you spend your time working and for some reason the marriage failed.. 1. If your wife is not working.. You might have to pay alimony to to maintain her current life style. 2. Since your spend most of your time working.. You have less contact with your kid.. Unlikely you will get care and control or shared care and control... most likely only access.. 3. You have to maintain your current child lifestyle so that your kid get the full measure of child support. Really. Lose lose situation... You make hope that your wife will have mercy on you if marriage fail for whatsoever reasons.. But we live long enough to know that living by one's mercy is a terrible idea. So work less and spend time with kids.. The reward is immerse. Encourage your wife to work so she understands your challengers too.