Would you work long hours and weekend to earn more/secure ur job or spend more time with your children but earn lesser? Would that make you a lesser dad?

Here’s my personal take. I feel that it very much depends on the circumstances of each family. The best case scenario is definitely to have the best of both worlds. Reasonable working hours and weekends to balance work and family. While I do not think anyone would think less of any parent who needs to put in the hours to put bread on the table, it is best if both parents could participate in the growing up of their children. The little ones grow up quickly. Some things in life, you missed it means there’s no turning back time to relive it. If some lifestyle changes could be made such that it will allow both parents more time with their children, that would probably be the best. Having said all these, sometimes, it is inevitable that the hours are needed to simply “scrap by” (given the high cost of living and everything). I would say, don’t be too hard on yourself. Spend as much time as you could with your children. Explain to them as they grow up. They would understand. And the answer to your question.. in my opinion, no, it definitely does not make you a lesser dad. :)