6:30-8am depending if it’s a school day. Bed time wise, 10pm - 1am up to them as long as they can wake up the next day. After we drop off the kids to school, she can rest if she want as long as she finishes her chores. Sometimes when we have family gathering, we end late so she will also sleep late (2am) but we will let her rest till 11-12pm. Morning we will handle the kids ourselves. Off days up to her on what time she wants to go out, she will come back before 10pm. We take turns to have meals if baby is awake, if baby is asleep, eat together, save time.
Phone wise, she will auto. If nothing to do, kids in school, before bedtime she can use her phone. Need her to have her phone so I can call her anytime if I need her help. Other than that, when she’s handling kids she won’t use her phone. She also won’t talk on the phone while doing housework so we don’t limit her phone usage or when she wants to use. So this one I think works both way, we can give and take but they also must auto abit.
My helper is solely for taking care of kids (she can’t cook btw, but will help to prepare ingredients if she’s free) so we don’t expect her to cook. We either cook ourselves or Dabao food.
For your case, I would change a new helper. Everything can close eye but when it comes to the safety of my baby, it’s no negotiations. If you use your phone while feeding my baby, anything happen you use what and pay me back? Your life?
As entitled as it sounds, you are her employer, you are paying her and your requests are not unreasonable. Just like we can’t tell our boss to do himself at work, if so, employ you for what? Money too much meh 🙄.
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