Asian mother insisted to cook daily

Question

just want to rant. My mom is staying with us, and she is typical asian who prefer home cook foods. i was like one and off we can have outside foord or dabao foods so that she can rest. whenever she eta dabao food, her face like charcoal or like i force her to eat poison like that. whenever we ordered outside food, she next day want to challege and cook it as if her cook is nicer. i mean maybe is a good intention and efforts or save money, but occasionally, we wanted to have some msg in life…. is your mom like that too? i feel abit irritated tbh.. #Frustrated

Deepz · Answer

I really feel you on this, my own mum is exactly the same way and it can feel so suffocating even though you know her heart is in the right place. She was more concerned with giving me healthy food. What helped us was framing it as a treat for the whole family rather than a replacement for her cooking, like telling her we are ordering outside food specifically so she can have a night off to rest, because somehow that lands better than just dabao-ing without explanation. It took a few tries but she slowly started to accept it leh, so maybe just keep gently nudging and she might come around over time.