Fat shamed during Pregnancy

Question

Hi Mummies,Have you ever been fat shamed during pregnancy? Ive always gained weight easily. And for my first child, I gained 20kg. Throughout the pregnancy, I had people commenting on how big I was and jokingly saying that maybe I am having twins. Tbh, it is really hurtful. Now I am having my second baby. I am 12 weeks, but it looks like I am 5 months pregnant. I am not eating overly much either, just really bloated. I have friends and family already beginning to comment on how big I look, telling me to watch my intake. I even have a friend who is pregnant like me commenting about how no one can tell she is pregnant, unlike me, who is round. She brags about how she actually lost weight when pregnant and is very proud of how she is still able to maintain her figure.

Rachel · Accepted Answer

Most important is that you keep your emotions stable. Distance away from toxic people or comments. Everyone experience pregnancy symptoms differently some gain weight some lose weight. Most importantly is baby is healthy.

LB · Answer

Wow. This friend of yours is pretty toxic, suggest that you stay away from her. Sounds like shell be one of those who would also brag about other stuff next time, might as well cut her out early if you can, no need to keep such toxicity in your life.If your friends and family comment, just say tt its common for the 2nd pregnancy to show more and faster since the skin is looser already. Thank you for their concern, and say that its perfectly normal, then drop the topic. If they bring it up next time, just repeat the same line. Theyll get it in time (unless theyre obtuse). They probably didnt mean harm, but had nothing better to say.