Parenting Style

Hi Mommies/Mommies-To-Be, Just wondering what is your thought on "beating your kids" as part of parenting style? My husband's family is more towards using physical punishment like beating when their kids rebel. Personally, I prefer to approach it through communication and holistic view. Maybe partly because I was raised in a different style by my parents. When I saw my own brother and my sis-in-law teaching their daughter is also more with love and explanation, like treating her to be more mature in thinking not driven by fear of getting punished. I used to discuss a lot with my husband on how I wish to raise our child next time but it rarely ended up well 😂 This is because he still believes that a kid has to experience the cane pain or punishment then they'll be able to learn more. I am not sure is it because his family is dominated mostly by males, cos all he has are brothers and nephews. For now, I try not to think so much of how he'll raise our kids but I am honestly quite worried everytime I witness his brother hit his kids so hard or talking harshly. I am a believer that parents should set good examples to their kids if we want our kids to have good manners too.

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The risk of being aggressive to your child to ‘discipline’ them is inadvertently teaching them that aggression is okay. What it would not teach them is - It’s okay to make mistakes, it’s more important how you correct them. - Your parents are a safe place you can come to when you need advice. The trusting relationship you build with your children would come in handy when they are older and are able to come and talk to you for their problems.

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