I’m not excited about the baby. Is this normal?

Question

Hi, mommies. First-time mom ako. I feel like a bad mom for not even feeling excited or happy that I’m expecting. Parang, come what may na lang nafefeel ko. Kung makunan, edi makunan (but please don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to naman and certainly not wishing). Kung hindi, edi the baby’s here. Ewan ko, ang hirap. Now I’m also scared na baka pagkalabas niya, hindi ko siya kayang mahalin.Is it just me? Is this just a phase? Will I get over it eventually? #firsttimemom #plshelp #pregnancy #sharing #adviceappreciated #firstmom

Nadira · Answer

Hay, mama, yan ay normal talaga, hindi ka bad mom, promise! Maraming nagfe-feel ng ganyan, lalo na first-time, kasi sobrang dami ng pressure at expectations, plus the hormones are all over the place, kaya natural na maging numb or detached muna. Ako mismo, nag-panic more than nag-excited sa first few months, tapos paglabas na ng baby ko, bigla nalang umabot ang love, pero I'm not gonna lie, it took time, hindi instant magic, at okay lang yun. What I'd say is don't force yourself to feel excited right now; more important is to check in with your OB or a counselor kung parang depression or anxiety na sya, kasi pregnancy hormones are real and sometimes we need a little help. The love usually comes, mama, pero it's okay kung it's not fireworks, sometimes it's quiet and slow, and that's beautiful din.

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