I have 3 kids

The "pushing away" behaviors of adolescents—such as talking back or slamming doors—are essentially a way of testing whether their parents will still love them no matter what. While they may appear resistant on the surface, deep down they have an immense need for your unconditional love and consistent boundaries. If, after some time, you notice your child exhibiting persistent low mood, engaging in self-harm, or completely refusing to communicate, please do not hesitate to seek help from a school counselor or a professional therapist. Doing so is not a sign of failure, but a wise decision. The very fact that you are proactively seeking solutions shows that you are a deeply caring parent.