You are the host and you get to decide who you want to have in your event. They can wish who they want to see during the event but ultimately end of the day, they have to respect your decision. If they (the invited ones) are unhappy with your guest list, they can host their own event or uninvite themselves.
You cannot and don’t need to please every or anyone. Above is similar to what I did because my mom (petty) does not want to see my dad’s side (divorced) during my LO 1st birthday and my wedding so I uninvited the problem (her side).
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