Actually instead of changing ur helper, i feel that the problem is u. im not judging u but the solution is u. the fact that ur child prefers ur helper shows that she is doing her job well. u shouldn't change her, u dont knw what ur next helper would be like.
while it may be harsh to say all this, this is a good chance to reflect on how u can turn things around. it is nt late to build a stronger bond with ur child.
i share with u my example. my helper's main duties are housework, laundry n cooking. she does not look after my son. my mum helps out while im at work and after wrk i rush home immediately to take over. i breastfeed n prepare all my lo solid foods. i bathe him in the evening n my hub bathes him in the morning. i spent all my after-wrk time with my lo, teaching n playing with n looking after him. my hub n i rock n tuck him into bed. my hub n i look after him entire wkends. my helper has little contact with him, the only thing she does for him is wash his clothes.
i know different ppl have different constraints n may not have a mom or mil or hub to help out. but i feel that as a mother, we are always making sacrifices. it depends on what u want to prioritise, what is impt to u.
for me, i sacrifice my me-time and my career advancements for motherhood because it is impt to me. if u feel that, for example other than motherhood, u also want to focus on n grow ur career then sacrifices have to be made. n cant complain when there is less bonding between u n child.
but if u decide to focus more on motherhood but have no one other than the maid to help u, maybe make it such that ur maid takes care of the child when u r at wrk but u take over entirely once u r back? more work for mummy but no choice.
so now is a good time to reassess ur situation. sometimes we need incidents like this to help us realign our life directions. all the best!
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