I am wondering why my wife keeps saying that being a stay at home mum is such hard work. I am not trolling here - but i frankly dont understand. Seems simple enough to me. I have taken care of my kids and home all weekend before and it's definitely no where as stressful as having a job. Our kid is 11 months and is formula fed. We live in a 4 rm flat.

i am a first time daddy over here, my boy just reached 7 months, truly agree with what most people have already said. playing with the kids or just helping up is totally different. put yourself in your wife shoes. give your wife a couple of days off from being staying home mom, and take over her duties. ensuring the baby is well taken care of, the house is in good condition and also not forgetting taking care of you after you are back from your work. It is always easier to say then do it yourself.

By taking care do you mean just bottle feed them and play with them when needed? Hmm..There’s a lot more to do and you have to know as sahm we re facing the ceiling and walls there’s hidden stress accumulated and we have no one to talk to , can build up stress in a way too . And laundry , cooking , making baby sleep , bathe him , cleaning up and tidying up 24/7 and we don’t really have proper rest and sleep , those restless night making us feeling more tired too..

Maybe because she had to take care 24 hours a day so she feel is a hard work whereas in the night time most probably only wife will wake up. whereas men like us had to work outside and only spend little time with kids and we feel easy but overall if it's long term kids might not be as easy as we think. because she might had house work such as cooking ,washing of clothes and maybe cleaning .. So it also actually depends on individual

looks are deceiving 😅 similarly a husband's job seems easy to some wives. it's the effort and sacrifices not put into words that sums up everybody's day of work seems simple enough for you as you only consider some areas of SAHM. it will be simple for SAHMs too if we just take everything simply too by not looking closely in all areas that make a house a home Appreciate your other half and good to know that you are helping out on weekends

It’s easy to pass judgement when you are not in her shoes. Swop your role with her for 2 weeks but in these 2 weeks, you need to ensure you do exactly everything she does at home without her help including cleaning, planning family meals, taking care of the baby etc etc. Hopefully by then you’ll have a whole new appreciation for her just like this dad in Thailand - https://thesmartlocal.com/thailand/man-watches-wife-cctv/

I am a working mum - and I think stay at home mums have it just as tough. Cause when ur around ur kids, u are always on. It's not like she's going to switch "off" and plug the kids infront of the TV. Your Wife is probably chasing after a crawling baby, spending time feeding properly, playing games, singing songs, etc. It's kinda like Being an infant care teacher plus mum -2 in 1, with no annual leave, off days, sick leave etc

I asked my hubby to babysit for 3 hours as I needed to go out for work related issues. Our baby is 5 weeks old and he told me he don't understand how I can do it as a SAHM, after 3 hours he was already tired. I guess it really demands on individual? I am sleep deprived but I enjoy caring for baby, not say It's an easy job, neither is it a tough job, just need to manage time well.

24 hours is not enough for a mom, so much for a stay at home mom. A weekend experience do not define the week long challenges of coping with duties & demands on motherhood. There are responsibilities that only a mother can meet. Mothers, in their own way, go above & beyond to keep everything going. Most of the time, you don’t hear nor see the struggles or frustrations of a mom.

I have always believed that no one can fully understand the plight of someone else unless he or she goes through the exact same thing. Take a week off from work, get you wife a return ticket to anywhere she wants for a week (think she deserves it) and take over. Better yet, do it for a month to achieve best results. Looking forward to hearing from you next month! :)

A stay home mum is not as easy as what you thought spending weekend with the kids only. There are so much more than what you can see. If you want to have the feel of how is it like maybe you can try taking a day or 2 day off and take care of your kids alone. Get your wife to spend time outside during that 2 days so that you can really get the feel out of it.